Motherhood

I grew up in a home full of love, laughter, joy, and hard work. My parents taught my brother and I at a young age that if you want something, you have to work for it. Nothing in this world comes free. Both of my parents worked full-time jobs. I was often asked as a child if I felt I was missing out spending time with my family because both of my parents worked. There were times as a child that I felt that was true. I wanted to spend time with my mom, especially. The older I got, the more I understood that my mother would have loved to stay home with me too. I've heard her say often that she would have dropped everything to be able to stay home with me and my brother. 

I strive to be able to stay home with my children. I feel the relationship you build with your children at a young age will help them for the rest of their life. Although I did not have that time with my mother, we are lucky to have the type of relationship we do today. Being a full-time mother is one of the greatest responsibility and blessing a woman can have. I believe it is a calling to be a mother. To mold and teach children to become their potential. 

Communication

Over two months ago, I entered into a long distance relationship. We both felt it was the right time for us, but it was hard. We had liked each other for a while so things progressed rather fast after we started dating, Communicating, however, has never been easy for us. He wants to know what I am thinking all the time. He likes to talk about his feelings and get everything out in the open. The exact opposite of that is me. I do not like sharing my thoughts. I am a thinker, so I have to make sure i feel comfortable and confident in the situation before I will begin to express myself. Since we are not able to see each other as often as we would like, we cannot communicate using our non-verbal. Non-verbal communication is 51% of interactions. We have had to work extra hard to understand each other because we are unable to see our body language.

Communicating with someone is hard. It takes patience and a level of understanding to be able to resolve conflicts that may come up. When we do take that time and work together, that relationship is strengthened.  

Family Crisis

When families are placed under stressful situations, many different reactions can occur. There can be heart break, there can be fighting, among other things. Sometimes the situation is something out of our control. When I was seventeen, my father was diagnosed with Kidney cancer. It is something that threw my family for a loop. My father went into surgery to have the cancer removed, and we were told that there was a great chance that he would be home in three to four days, recovering, but cancer free. Unfortunately that is not what happened. Complications arose and my father ended up having to stay in the hospitals for two weeks.

Those two weeks were extremely hard complicated. Between my mother working a full time job, I attending high school, working, and an active participate in my ballet company, along with my brother attending college locally we were already a busy family, but now we had to add taking care of my father and making sure he was okay. We spent every second we could at the hospital, It was two weeks that changed my life forever. My family after that understood how fast everything can change. We stopped taking each other for granted and wanted to be around each other more. Our home was filled with more happiness and joy than ever before.

Waiting.

The topic of waiting until marriage was one I was asked verily often throughout high school. It seemed to be the only thing a lot of my friends were talking about. In fact, I am sure it still does with a number a high school students today. The idea of waiting seemed so foreign to them, and they never understood why. For a while, I did not understand why either, but I had been told my entire life that I needed too.

Through different experiences in my life, I finally understand why waiting until marriage to have sex is so key. It is because it is sacred. That bond that you and spouse share is something so special I cannot imagine sharing that with more than them. I heard often of breakups, made so much harder because that bond was there. As you spend more time together, you grow so much together. You share something special and sacred, that God intended for you to only with one other person.